Respect for Elders


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The purpose of the creation of man, according to Islam, is that he should worship Allah. Worship means total obedience to the commands of Allah. The Holy Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, brought the message of God and explained all the commandments concerning the religion of Islam.

For Atfal

  • It is the teachings of the Holy Prophet (saw) and the Holy Quran
    • The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said, “He is not of us who does not have mercy on young children, nor honor the elderly” (Al-Tirmidhi).
    • Narrated Abdullah ibn Amr ibn al-‘As: The Prophet said: Those who do not show mercy to our young ones and do not realize the right of our elders are not from us (Sunan Abu Dawud).
    • The first elders are your parents who take care of you when you were very little and could not take care of yourself.
  • The concept of respect for your elders allows you to build a loving relationship with them. When you grow up then your children will respect you. This cycle of love and respect will then forever continue in your family.
  • When there will be love and respect in your home then there will be peace. If there is peace in your home then there will be peace in society.
  • The elders like your grandparents guide you to be a good Ahmadi Muslim person. Their presence will train you to be respectful to elders in general.
  • Always listen and obey your parents when they guide you and tell you to do something
    • Volunteer to help them out by doing chores around the house
    • Assist them wherever they might need your help before they ask
    • Always listen to their guidance and do not reject it even if you might not understand it now.
    • Don’t ever yell or talk loudly (voice) in front of them or at them.
    • Don’t ever talk back to them in a disrespectful way or manner
  • Have a similar kind of respect for your other family members like your grandparents, aunts, and uncles.
  • Be kind and considerate to your elder brothers or sisters in your family.
  • Be kind and considerate to your elder persons in your Jamaat and in the community where you live
  • If an elder person makes a mistake then do not scold them but respectfully explain to them how it might be wrong.
  • You can go as a group with Khuddaam, Ansar, and Atfal to visit an elderly home to spend some time with the elderly there.
  • Holy Quran
    • “Your Lord has commanded that you worship none but Him and that you be kind to your parents. If one or both of them reach old age with you, do not say to them a word of disrespect, or scold them, but say a generous word to them. And act humbly to them in mercy, and say, ‘My Lord, have mercy on them since they cared for me when I was small” (Quran 17: 23-24).
  • Hadith
    • Narrated Abu Musa al-Ash’ari: The Prophet said: Glorifying Allah involves showing honor to a grey-haired Muslim and to one who can expound the Quran but not to one who acts extravagantly regarding it, or turns away from it, and showing honor to1 a just ruler (Sunan Abu Dawud).
    • Narrated Abu Bakrah: The Prophet said: There is no sin more fitted to have punishment meted out by Allah to its perpetrator in advance in this world along with what He stores up for him in the next world than oppression and severing ties of relationship. (Sunan Abu Dawud).
  • Miscellaneous
  • Stories of the Faithful – published by Majlis Khuddaam-ul Ahmadiyya, USA

For Parents

  • It is the teachings of the Holy Prophet (saw) and the Holy Quran
    • The Prophet said: He does not belong to us who does not show mercy to our young ones and respect to our old ones, who does not recommend what is reputable and prohibit what is disreputable (Tirmidhi).
    • Quran 17: 23-24
  • It will instill the love and respect for at an early age for your children. They will then love and respect you when they are older.
  • They will feel a need to take care of you when you are older
  • They will generally be more considerate and respectful for elders in general whether it is their grandparents, aunts or uncles, elder siblings, and others in the community.
  • Involve your Atfal/Tifl to help out when you need help from them
  • If grandparents are nearby or live in the house then teach your Atfal/Tifl to serve and treat them with kindness. Allow them to spend as much time with their grandparents as possible.
  • Go and visit a local area elderly home with your Atfal/Tifl to spend some time with the local community elders who may not see their families regularly.
  • Guide your Atfal/Tifl to a have deep connection with Khilafat by regularly writing letters to Hazur (aba) because this will instill the need to respect elders at the highest level, the Khalifa of Islam.
  • Guide your Atfal/Tifl to say “Usalam o alaikum” to all elders they see in their mosque.
  • Tell your Atfa/Tifl stories about your family’s past and the journey of your elders into Ahmadiyyat in Islam.
  • Huff Post article “11 Tips to Instill True Gratitude in Your Kids”